Saying Goodbye

Phil Nowack

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Today we will say good bye to my father in law. While things like this are never easy, it is so difficult to watch my wife grieve. I am so thankful that we convinced them to move close to us 18 months ago. Sarah was able to spend so much more time with him. They lived in Decorah, where Sarah teaches, so she was able to stop in for a few minutes whenever she wanted. While her father was dealing with the things that a 78 year old man deals with, we were not expecting the stroke that took him on the 23rd. Again so thankful that they moved near us, as Sarah's mother will not be as alone.

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I'm very sorry to hear that Phil. I'll be thinking about you and your wife and your mother in law. I'm sure it's tough at any time but Christmas makes it even harder no doubt.

Many good thoughts heading y'alls way.
 
No man is an island, entire of itself; every man is a piece of the continent, a part of the main. If a clod be washed away by the sea, Europe is the less, as well as if a promontory were, as well as if a manor of thy friend's or of thine own were: any man's death diminishes me, because I am involved in mankind, and therefore never send to know for whom the bells tolls; it tolls for thee. Neither can we call this a begging of misery, or a borrowing of misery, as though we were not miserable enough of ourselves, but must fetch in more from the next house, in taking upon us the misery of our neighbours. Truly it were an excusable covetousness if we did, for affliction is a treasure, and scarce any man hath enough of it. No man hath affliction enough that is not matured and ripened by and made fit for God by that affliction. If a man carry treasure in bullion, or in a wedge of gold, and have none coined into current money, his treasure will not defray him as he travels. Tribulation is treasure in the nature of it, but it is not current money in the use of it, except we get nearer and nearer our home, heaven, by it. Another man may be sick too, and sick to death, and this affliction may lie in his bowels, as gold in a mine, and be of no use to him; but this bell, that tells me of his affliction, digs out and applies that gold to me: if by this consideration of another's danger I take mine own into contemplation, and so secure myself, by making my recourse to my God, who is our only security!

John Donne - Meditation VXII


We offer our condolences on your loss!
Rick and Karen Ligman
 
Hey Phil. I was sorry to hear about Sarah's dad. Keep the circle tight. My best to you, Sarah, her mom, and the rest of the family.
 
Thank you... All of you.


It just doesn't seem real. Hardest part is watching my wife and mother in law grieve.
 
Lost my old man back in 2005 and some days it still brings tears to my eyes.
But worse part was trying to console my mom who lost her best friend after 46 years together.
Its pretty damn tough, but know that being there as a shoulder to cry on for your wife and mother-in-law is what they really need.
 
Thanks for sharing Phil. I am sorry for the loss of your Father-in-law. I do not look forward to the day when one of our parents passes for on.

Mark
 
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